In this summary, you will learn:

1) How to recognize emotionally driven behavior in yourself, 2) How to identify and reach your goals by making better decisions and 3) How to master your emotions.

Take-Aways

• The often-ignored “physiology of emotions” can cause damaging behavior. Emotions aren’t harmful by nature, but people can mismanage them in damaging ways.
• The journey to mastering your emotions so they support your goals has seven steps:
• First, identify your “Personal Emotional Triggers,” the people or things that overwhelm you with strong feelings.
• Second, anticipate hard decisions. Prepare to react consciously, not impulsively.
• Third, recognize your ambitions so you act to fulfill them. Some goals are concrete (your “gold”), while others shape a broad vision of your better self (your “truth”).
• Use “frisualization” – making a visual representation that combines “framing and visualizing” – to help you conceptualize and work toward achieving your goals.
• Fourth, change previous negative behavior patterns into deliberate, positive strategies.
• Five, remind yourself of these first four points so that you will make better decisions.
• Six, make decisions that are congruent with your long-range goals. When the time comes to make a resolution, know your truth and your gold.
• Seven, keep your list of life goals current and relevant. Learn from your mistakes.