Before ruminating, however, it’s important to identify the roots of your stress in order to identify its causes — and to uncover what you’ve learned about what you truly want for your workdays and career. To do so, take a step back and answer the following four questions: 

• What do I want my days to look like? 
• What stresses me out? 
• How does my boss define success right now? 
• What do I value most?

Once you’ve dug deep on these issues, you’ll be in a better position to understand what you need and to approach your manager about putting those needs into practice.